This blog has been written because of comments by folks who believe that they have been unfairly treated. Folks who feel that the behavior of posters and the candidates have been biased and down right rude. This type of anger has led to a divide in the Dem party. In some cases, I've read that it has led to folks leaving the Dem Party.
If there is an element of this blog that you feel is trashing someone? Please ask before you jump to conclusions. The last diary, I said, was intended as a positive diary. I quoted something I'd read on the blogs.
There were commenters who gave me the benefit of the doubt.
They are one of the reasons that I'm writing this diary entry.
So please be kind enough to ask.
The benefit of a clarification never hurt anyone.
I came here to find information about the candidates. I live in a RedState. I just have to roll down the window during the middle of "Rush" hour to get a drift of what folks are thinking on the Republican side. But finding out information and meeting Dems isn't as easy.
I came here to meet folks and learn about the issues.
Now a long time ago, I was once told by a lady lawyer and professor that:
Reasonable people can and do disagree.
But there is a difference between spirited debate while trying to find answers and being full of snark, scoring points, and being a thug.
Or as my son said:
"There's a difference between "snark with ears" and "snark with just mouth".
Unlike some folks, I'm not professing sainthood here. Far from it. I can snark just like the rest. I like a friend who challenges.
But the thing is, if it stops being a challenge and starts to become a fist fight? It's time to ask why.
There are people on myDD and people in general who've been holding fist fights and it has just made folks mad.
So mad that they'd rather sit this election out thank you very much. They seem to feel that they've been had by their own political party. The party they counted on to represent their concerns in the WhiteHouse. Now they feel betrayed.
Yelling at them or telling them in anger that you just don't need their support won't make it better. Neither will the insults. The slang word "Cougar" isn't a compliment and yes it is sexist.
"Reasonable people will differ, but pizzing in their cornflakes? It just makes them mad." Hannah Murphy
So will calling them old, out of touch, low information, RedNeck, racist, cougars... well you've heard it too.
This has been keenly felt amongst the supporters of the feminist movement. These men and woman have fought hard so that their mothers, daughters, sisters---women every where-- should not be discriminated against. They remember what it was like before. The long struggles. It hurts. Yes it hurts to be told that you are unwelcome in the Dem Party. Especially when the folks saying it are the young women who have profited from the older feminist's work. The older feminist has seen both sides of gender discrimination. When you have seen and fought against sexism or any discrimination for that matter, you know why it is important not to take it for granted.
I am a woman. It hurts. Now adays you can choose your path be it work or stay at home. There are non discrimation laws that prevent an employer from keeping the qualified woman home if she'd rather not. I am alot older than the younger feminists. So I have seen the world before Title IX and the Civil Rights Act. I was no baby while my mom worked and tried to cobble together childcare. They called us "latch key kids" . No wait I was a "latch key kid" before they even had a name for them. It's a different world kiddies. Guess what though, there are plenty of folks who'd just love to go back to the not so good old days.
These women and men, who've seen the hurt of sexism, have worked diligently to do more than put cracks in that glass ceiling. They feel that by this time in history, it is wrong that the glass ceiling should even exist. There have been so many strong and highly qualified women who've never even run for office or who've been passed over yet again. Then to be put down, yes I said it, put down by other women who daily profit from the feminist movement. That's got folks mad too. Imagine you had worked so hard. Imagine if you've worked hard to change things and been successful at it. Imagine working so hart to give women a choice to stay home or not and then be told by the people who have prospered from your work,
"You don't count."
And these elderstateswomen and men of the modern feminist movement have indeed been told that very thing.
That's one of the reasons folks are not happy in Denver or in many other parts of the country this day. They have fought too hard and too long only to be told,
"You don't count."
It is to these women and men I say,
"Yes, You do."
I'm my last diary, I said that I would be working to see that a woman is elected to the office of President. This isn't a single issue. As I said in that diary, women cared very much about health care, the war in Iraq and Afghanistan, immigration, education, the economy, the environment...
I'm just making sure that I put this at the top of the list.
Not getting passed over when you are the most qualified person for the job.
To me it is beyond believe, that in this day and age, this issue comes up when deciding who will sit in the Oval Office.