The Confessional Mark Sanford

Mark Sanford, the increasingly embattled Governor of South Carolina, must think that the Associated Press is some sort of licensed therapist. How else can one explain this statement? "I will be able to die knowing that I had met my soul mate," he told the Associated Press. He was referring to his mistress, Maria Belen Chapur of Buenos Aires. That's all fine and good. I'm happy for the Governor but does the world need to know the intimacies of Mark Sanford?

It gets better. Despite his Argentine soul mate, the good Governor insists he can fall back in love with his wife, Jenny Sanford. The Governor should realize that a soul mate is worth more than a mere governorship. Edward VIII, after all, gave up his throne for the American divorcée Wallis Simpson. More from the Associated Press:

The once-promising presidential prospect said he is committed to reconciling with his wife, but professed to The Associated Press his continued love for the Argentine woman at the center of the firestorm that gutted his political future.

In emotional interviews with the AP over two days, he said he would die "knowing that I had met my soul mate."

Sanford also said that he "crossed the lines" with a handful of other women during 20 years of marriage, but not as far as he did with his mistress.

"There were a handful of instances wherein I crossed the lines I shouldn't have crossed as a married man, but never crossed the ultimate line," he said.

Sanford insisted his relationship with Maria Belen Chapur, whom he met at an open air dance spot in Uruguay eight years ago, was more than just sex.

"This was a whole lot more than a simple affair, this was a love story," Sanford said. "A forbidden one, a tragic one, but a love story at the end of the day."

Even with the latest revelations, Sanford maintains he is fit to govern and has no plans to resign.

"I've been able to do my job and in fact excel at it," Sanford said, while acknowledging he is a spectator at his "own political funeral."

At this point, the wounds are self-inflicted. I'll repeat what I said last week when this story broke. Governor Sanford should resign not because he is having an affair but because he misled his staff as to his whereabouts and breached his duties.

Furthermore the good Governor would do well have these bouts of confession with an actual licensed therapist and with not the reporters of the Associated Press. This melodrama has become a soap opera. This serves no one, least of all Governor Sanford's wife and four boys.

Meanwhile the calls for Governor Sanford's resignation grow louder. This side of the story from The State:

On Wednesday afternoon, Senate President Pro Tempore Glenn McConnell became the latest -- and one of the most significant -- members of the S.C. legislature to say the governor should consider stepping down after admitting to an affair.

In a statement, McConnell encouraged Sanford to do the right thing:

"Neither I nor my colleagues in the General Assembly can require that the Governor resign," McConnell said in his statement.

"That decision is his alone. I do believe, however, that the Governor has lost the support of the people that is needed to govern. Therefore, I would ask the Governor to look in his heart and decide whether with his family situation and the public uproar over what he has done and said locally and nationally whether he can lead our state for the remainder of his term."

Ten Republican state senators have asked the governor to step down, while others say they are leaning in that direction. The Associated Press is reporting that 14 Republican state senators are supporting a resignation, which is a majority of the 27 GOP members.

The tide turned after Sanford revealed he had seen his Argentine lover more times than he'd originally stated and that he had what he considered to be inappropriate encounters with other women short of sex.

On Wednesday morning, U.S. Sen. Jim DeMint of Greenville urged Sanford to make the "right decision."

"He's dropped the flag. The rest of us have to get up and go on," DeMint said during an interview on Fox News' "Fox & Friends." "A lot of us are talking to him behind the scenes in hopes that he'll make the right decision about what needs to be done."

Asked what the "right decision" would be for Sanford, DeMint said: "I don't want to say."

I am sure if the Governor chooses to dig in his heels, he will manage to serve out the remainder of his term. But what good can come of that? It is hard to foresee Mark Sanford having a political future in South Carolina. I pray he finds happiness.



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Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (none / 0)

This man has four kids.  What the heck does he think he is doing to them?


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by Steve M on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 07:48:06 PM EST

they're his second priority (2.00 / 1)

As he said in last week's press conference, he let "her" down (the mistress), he let his children down, and he let his wife down. In that order.


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by desmoinesdem on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 08:34:10 PM EST
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Without Even Being Gay (2.00 / 3)

This idea that, in spite of having found his soulmate, he can still fall back into love with his wife sounds eerily like a hetero version of the ex-gay malarkey.  

I guess we could give Sanford points for being able to live that particular brand of fundamentalist hypocrisy.  


It's clear that both the Ensign and Sanford marriages were the victims of the increasing number of states approving gay marriage.
by January 20 on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 08:12:02 PM EST

Charles, we're probably not soul mates (2.00 / 2)

but we may be "psychic friends," as I've been saying for days that Sanford needs to pull an Edward VIII.

I think two things are going on in Sanford's brain:

1. While giving lip service to his desire to reconcile with his wife, he is trying to humiliate her so much that she refuses to try to reconcile with him. Then in his mind, he'll have done his Christian duty and tried to keep the marriage together, but its collapse wasn't 100 percent his fault.

2. He wants everyone to know how much he's in love with the mistress so that we won't think he's like every other politician who has tawdry affairs. Remember, this is a guy who thought Bill Clinton should resign. He has a very low opinion of powerful men who take sexual license with other women. So, he needs to show that he is not at all like them.

I feel very sorry for Jenny Sanford and the kids. I don't know how they can ever have any respect for their father after this.


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by desmoinesdem on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 08:33:13 PM EST

Re: Charles, we're probably not soul mates (none / 0)

Well, I'll say this, you're my sanity check. For instance, I had been waivering on cap and trade but relectuant to take a firm stand against it. Didn't feel I had all the hard facts to make a sufficiently cogent argument. It was a relief to see your post on the matter. I felt my instincts must be right if you concurred.

I just don't understand why Mark Sanford needs to confess his sins so publically. If this woman is indeed his soul mate then that's where I would be. Still, the poor man needs a therapist so he can pour out his conflicted emotions. This is all too embarrassing to even watch.


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by Charles Lemos on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 09:08:25 PM EST
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Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (2.00 / 2)

I'm not really sure what's worse-- that Sanford in most of his encounters with the press seems to be actually begging for sympathy, or that in some corners of the media he seems to actually be getting it.


by mcc on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 08:34:17 PM EST

Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (2.00 / 1)

It's all about the brass ring--Sanford wanted the Presidency, as Edwards did.  They're afraid to admit that some things are more important.  So they have these secret affairs.

If you can't stand your spouse, if he or she is not meeting your needs and you have the resources to see to the well-being of your kids, there are ways to end a marriage while preserving the dignity of all involved.

I don't advocate divorce, but I recognize also that this sh!t is way more destructive to all involved than a sensibly executed split.


by SuperCameron on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 09:42:46 PM EST

Mid-life crisis (2.00 / 1)

instead of a new BMW he got an Argentine mistress to fill whatever emptiness he feels in his life.


by JJE on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 11:41:38 PM EST

If I had to pick between the two.... (none / 0)

Well, I'm quite taken with/by my fiancee, honestly.  But I can understand the appeal.  The difference is that I currently have more self-control than the governor.  Admittedly I'm only 29 so I cannot know the person I'll be in twenty years, but I have a hard time believing I'll be THAT stupid.


by Reaper0Bot0 on Thu Jul 02, 2009 at 09:00:40 AM EST
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Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (2.00 / 1)

This nutball is a total AIRHEAD it's beyond my comprehension that even the Rethugs could have considered this jerk for a possible Presidential run. But I guess it is South Carolina after all.


by Bob Moon on Wed Jul 01, 2009 at 11:52:57 PM EST

Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (none / 0)

This is a cautionary tale of what happens when a woman totally subordinates herself to her husband and gives everything up to be the ideal political wife.

At any rate, this is fascinating to watch.  It's like he's actually conflicted about all this!  He's acting like a 13-year-old boy.  Any minute now he'll start yelling "none of you remember what it's like to truly be in love!  If you ever even knew."


When you start out making the "slippery slope" argument, where do you draw the line?
by Jess81 on Thu Jul 02, 2009 at 12:24:53 PM EST

Re: The Confessional Mark Sanford (none / 0)

I'll repeat what I said last week when this story broke. Governor Sanford should resign not because he is having an affair but because he misled his staff as to his whereabouts...

Look, I've enjoyed all the "this isn't about an affair" business, but he misled his staff about bis whereabouts...so he could go visit his girlfriend in Argentina. If it makes one feel better to say "misled" is the problem, well, okay, whatever fig leaf you like... but the staff was misled to cover up an affair, so bottom line, the problem there is till an affair, like it or not. I'm happy saying he should resign because conducting an affair like this, in the manner it's been conducted calls his fitness for office into question, and I wish we'd drop the liberal handwringing about trying to say affairs don't call a person's overall judgment into question. It's the affair, it's the travel, it's the lying... it's all of it, and then some.

We are, actually, allowed to say that married men having affairs are bad people for having affairs, and that they make bad civil servants, especially in an affair that's unraveled as the Sanford one has. What we don't have really, is any right to judge the Sanfords, their marriage or their future choices as a couple, be it divorce, staying together for the kids, or moving the Argentinian lady in and living as polyamorists. In thier lives, that's their choice. As governor, it's our choice... and I think the guy with the tacky affair should go. Just say it.


by nycweboy1 on Fri Jul 03, 2009 at 12:18:38 AM EST


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