Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Feminist Movement

Clinton should disassociate herself from the PUMAs, defending her former supporters who are following her advice to work their hearts out for Obama. Clinton supporters who immediately started to work for Obama seem to be  targeted by  some PUMA  trolls on our blogger blogs as cowardly traitors. The anonymous attacks on me removed from the Clintonista for Obama blog were revolting and ageist, implying I was too close to the grave to have a right to political advocacy, that I desperately needed, but would never get, a man, that they laughed themselves sick at my profile.

Given that these personal attacks on me echoed the attacks made by the media and progressive blogs against older Hillary supporters, I have to wonder who those anonymous hit-and-run attackers truly were.  Are they truly Hillary supporters or an army of Karl Roves in disguise?  Is it completely unfair to associate them with genuine PUMAS? The whole mess is heartbreaking. I certainly understand where the PUMA people are coming from. I just have to reread all my letters to my daughters and sons-in-law for the last year. I was totally demoralized that they were all supporting Obama and repeating all the right-wing Hillary demonizing that had now been adopted by too many progressive blogs.

I had dedicated 30 years of my life to nonsexist childrearing of 4 daughters, and now I was discovering they probably weren't feminists and couldn't recognize sexism and misogyny. They had splendid educations and excellent jobs, so they hadn't experienced much discrimination. However, after a year of mothering, my oldest daughter realizes we don't live in a postfeminist era. Two more daughters are becoming mothers this year, so they will be similarly enlightened. There is nothing like discovering you might make $100,000 plus, but are still expected to pump breastmilk in a toilet to raise your consciousness.

The attacks on me and other Clinton supporters for Obama made the Obama supporters on mybarackobama seems like cuddly little bunnies in contrast. Now that they realize I am genuinely working hard for Obama, they can welcome me, even as  I criticize him from the progressive left. Admittedly, it has taken me a month to find groups of Obama supporters I can work with, and we had to work through much miscommunication and misunderstanding.

Some Obama supporters genuinely believe that Hillary doesn't disown the PUMAs because she believes they enhance her chances for the vice presidential nomination. I am sure they are wrong, but I understand howClinton's speaking out would probably reassure people.

Feminists and other progressives need to start a peaceful revolution for a family-friendly, child-friendly, elder-friendly, human-friendly America. Instead we squabble like little children. Wait, that isn't fair to toddlers. The under threes I hang out with are far better behaved and cooperative.

However, if Obama supporters viciously attack Hillary supporters who are not ready to support Obama, they reinflict all the traumatic wounds of the primary season. I perfectly understand how many women feel that supporting Obama is equivalent to going back to an abusive husband. The primary campaign reawakened in me memories of a lifetime of discrimination, mockery, and misogyny. We are all too quick to dismiss people who disagree with us as trolls. Rational debate is not trolling. I do try to take what people say seriously and dialogue with them. A serious discussion of the need for a new feminist movement of progressive men and women  might be a constructive substitute for tormenting our former and future allies



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Good diary, recommended, (2.00 / 6)

But we need to remember the distinction between rational debate and trolling. The people who do nothing but tear Obama down with idiotic smears and complaints do not deserve my patience. I've tried, but they don't want a rational discussion. They just want to sow discord.


Even John McCain lusts after teh engels.
by sricki on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 08:35:38 PM EST

Re: Good diary, recommended, (2.00 / 5)

Yeah, I agree with this sentiment. I have trouble with people who refer to a Democratic US Senator and presidential nominee as Barky, inadequate black man, or the Ace of Spades. I have a problem with referring to him as a liar and a hypocrite and then saying they won't vote for him because we were mean to them. I have multiple problems with people saying stuff they say is dissent, but everytime you try to have a rational discussion, they ignore you and move on to more troll arguments and reccing troll diaries and then accuse you of ratings abuse because their only contribution to this site is discord. I want to talk to these people, there is nothing I want more, because I think it's an easy case, please help me stocking.


by Dog Chains on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 09:14:42 PM EST
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Re: Good diary, recommended, (2.00 / 2)

I agree with everything in your comment except for "I want to talk to these people, there is nothing I want more, because I think it's an easy case..."

I think that the persons you describe in your comment are, frankly, a lost cause when it comes to speaking logically to them. Indeed, promoting the miriad reasons to vote for Obama over McCain IS an easy case to make...but only to those with the sense to hear it.

I don't think that we are the ones who need help talking to them....I think that they need help listening (again, I am speaking only about the type folks described in Dog Chains comment).

Great diary red....I still can't believe you were attacked over at C40 (though, I am relieved to see that it was NOT the regular crowd that attacked you!!).

:)


by Kysen on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 09:29:04 PM EST
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Lost causes indeed. (2.00 / 1)

I think that the persons you describe in your comment are, frankly, a lost cause when it comes to speaking logically to them.

That's the real problem we face.  They are taking advantage of the fact that so many want to reach out and give them understanding, as if that is going to change their mind.  It's not.

My attitude is, they are welcome to vote for McCain or anybody else they like, and as an American, I support that right whole-heartedly, as much as I may disagree with it.  But we don't have to tolerate dishonest taunting.

Take a certain diary that got on the rec list last night, for instance.  The author had written diaries before (that got on the rec list, as well) asking for diversity of opinion and support for alternative points of view, and a lot of us gave him support for that.  Then we find out that this dairist is cross-posting from Alegre's Corner, asking the usual trolls and dead-enders to come here and mass-rec a diary that served no useful purpose except to smear Obama over some trivial tangential bullshit.  People were posting, asking, how did that get on the rec list?

Well, now we know.  

How much understanding and sympathy and hand-holding is going to fix that?  See, that's not the problem.


by Dumbo on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:22:54 PM EST
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Re: Lost causes indeed. (2.00 / 2)

Obviously we do need Max to tame the wild things.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:38:30 PM EST
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Re: Surprised I Was Attacked? (2.00 / 1)

One of my social work supervisors told me I had a unique ability to bring out the craziness in supposedly sane people and the sanity in supposedly crazy people. I did have a sweat shirt that offered an explanation. It said manic on one side, and witch on the other. I seriously considered using  Rorschach Test as my email address.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:37:11 PM EST
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Re: Good diary, recommended, (2.00 / 2)

I admit I have only been on MYDD for 3 days, so I have no idea of the extent of the troll problem. My orginal advice was that trolls want uproar, so ignore them.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:33:28 PM EST
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Re: Good diary, recommended, (2.00 / 1)

To be of any use, I have to get a better idea of who is the problem.

Do you think I should infiltrate the  PUMA camp?


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:40:09 PM EST
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Re: Good diary, recommended, (none / 0)

Go for it, sweetie! You see, the Pumas are not as much pro-Hillary (although they are that) as they are anti-Obama. There is nothing you or anyone can say or do to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.


by Marjoriest on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 01:43:59 AM EST
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Re: Good diary, recommended, (none / 0)

Every progressive Obama supporter I know has been doing a tremendous amount of Obama bashing this ,week. My daughter, a writer and human rights lawyer feels utterly betrayed by Obama, whom she supported all along. She will vote for Obama but will not work for him or contribute to his campaign.  As she says, "making a contribution to buy a millisecond's worth of an Obama TV commercial looks like an amazingly lousy use of resources compared to joining the ACLU."
 
"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:31:52 PM EST
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They're giving up their (none / 0)

support primarily because of FISA, I assume?


Even John McCain lusts after teh engels.
by sricki on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:32:53 PM EST
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Re: They're giving up their (none / 0)

They are not refusing to vote for him, but his cowardly decision has drained a tremendous amount of enthusiasm and hope from his campaign.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:41:22 PM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (2.00 / 3)

I've always wished the candidates would call for bringing back the Equal Rights Amendment, or at least put more focus on equal pay. The Ledbetter Act is a good start, and I was in the Senate chamber for the vote, but even it doesn't go far enough.


The Wayward Episcopalian
by Transplanted Texan on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 09:03:01 PM EST

Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

Bravo to you about the Equal Rights Amendment. I am afraid the Democrats have only given women Roe vs. Wade and very little else. Meanwhile, our society is becoming a terrible place for children who by the millions are being given untested psychiatric drugs to help them adjust to the intolerable.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:43:51 PM EST
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Maybe we need LESS understanding. (2.00 / 1)

Oh, I know.  It is a radical concept.  But it seems like there has been no shortage of hand-holding and understanding and attempts to persuade and empathy and sympathy and forebearance for the people who still agitate against Obama.

It is quite understandable that in the immediate aftermath of a protracted and bitter primary battle that there should be some people who cannot let go, right away, that need to go through a grieving period, that need to get some last vitriol out of their system.

But JESUS CHRIST.

There comes a point when you have to realize that you're being had, that the people that you think just need a little more persuasion are actually just fucking with you.  They can't move on because they are addicted to it.  Trying to spoil your day is all they have left.  And people like that can't get their psychotherapy from us.  They are trolls.  They deserved the benefit of a doubt for a while.    A while.  

But there is no primary campaign anymore.  And there are few real Obama votes to be
gained or lost in the flame wars on MyDD, truth be told.  This is all just personal acting out and it shouldn't be coddled anymore than it has.  All you are doing is feeding trolls.  Stop feeding them, stop giving them their daily thrill, and they will either go away or get a grip.

It's time to move on: move on from the campaign season, move on from the pity parties, move on from the constant meta diaries.


by Dumbo on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:11:11 PM EST

What We Need Is Feminist Revolution (none / 0)

We need infinitely more understanding of what many millions of women, Hillary and Obama supporters alike, felt when they realized how few battles feminism has permanently won. Women's outrage and horror should motivate them for the rest of their lives. Obama supporters have to get that, and I doubt that they do.

Obama and the Democratic Party  refused to address the vicious, obscence misogyny directed at Clinton and her supporters. Howard Dean returned to planet earth only after Hillary was defeated and mildy complained about the sexism at MSNBC.
Comment
s like yours make me wonder if I shouldn't be posting at PUMA blogs after all since at least I understand what they are so outraged. You just don't get it. We want feminist revolution. I know defeating McCain is a necessary baby step. But then I am a political science major who has been politically involved since I was 11.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:24:41 PM EST
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If Obama had run for president, (2.00 / 1)

saying he had wanted racial equality revolution, I would have said, "That's nice.  But I'm really just looking for a president that will get us out of Iraq and stop the torturing."  I could understand how an important black figure in American politics might see that as an important matter, but I'm not black, and I just can't help but see what Bush has done to this country as the more pressing problem.

So when you say we need a feminist revolution, I say, I guess I can understand why that might be important to you, but it's not the important issue motivating most people this election.  Not even most women, I would suggest, timidly, because neither of us can read women's minds.  

I actually do have sympathy with the women's rights movements.  I condemned Obama here for the position he took on mental distress and abortion, quoted Doe v. Bolton, so I'm with you there.  But I'm not part of your movement, and it's unfair to get angry with me because I'm not part of it.  My goals are more limited and tractable.  

And when you bring up MSNBC, you lose me completely, because I feel that Olbermann has been smeared.  I'd like to just slide by the "horror and outrage" at the misogyny directed at Hillary, but, you see, I'm still seething over the latest issue of New Yorker and its cover.  It seems to me that Hillary suffered little compared to what Obama has had to endure and still has to endure.  I am fair enough to admit that the racist venom spewed at him by some on MyDD and other forums (not you) was not part of Hillary's campaign, nor directed by her, but just the product of small minds.

But it doesn't matter who has had to endure the most.  The primary campaign is over.  It's over.  


by Dumbo on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 12:27:41 AM EST
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Re: Maybe we need LESS understanding. (1.00 / 1)

and your name says it all.


by Marjoriest on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 01:46:09 AM EST
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Has Obama Vigorously Denounced Sexism? (none / 0)

Does anyone know whether Obama ever has clearly disavowed, repudiated (pick a verb) the sexism directed against HRC?

I know of no strong statement, which makes my support for him rather weak (no never McCain).  However, I may be poorly informed.

If anyone knows, please share links.

Thanks.


by borlov on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:34:22 PM EST

Re: Has Obama Vigorously Denounced Sexism? (none / 0)

He certainly has not and I wish Obama and Hillary feminists would join together and demand that he does.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:16:35 PM EST
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Re: Has Obama Vigorously Denounced Sexism? (2.00 / 1)

Who would believe him? it is too late for that.


by Marjoriest on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 01:48:28 AM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

Clinton should disassociate herself from the PUMAs, defending her former supporters who are following her advice to work their hearts out for Obama.

she already has done that.  What else do you want her to do?  Personally visit them and knock on their doors and kick them out of polite social circles?

jeezz....


by colebiancardi on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:36:36 PM EST

Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

She should denounce and reject. These are her supporters. She wasn't bashful about demanding that from Obama for an endorsement from Farakhan that Obama neither solicited or acknowledged.


"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." Samuel Johnson
by MS01 Indie on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:45:54 PM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

you THINK they are her supporters - I think they are just republican plants.

also, supporters are NOT the same as famous public persons.   These are ordinary Americans who do not sway public opinion


by colebiancardi on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:33:24 PM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (2.00 / 1)

So you think Alegre and her crowd are Republican plants? Interesting thought.


"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." Samuel Johnson
by MS01 Indie on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:44:12 PM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

alegre - no.  Her crowd - yes


by colebiancardi on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 12:09:24 AM EST
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Some of those people have been around a long time. (none / 0)

They were on DailyKos, then after "the strike," they were here and TalkLeft and LeftCoaster.  Sometimes people just don't want to give up because they like fighting and hate losing more than they care about a particular cause.


by Dumbo on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 08:15:42 AM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

I hoped that Hillary would now become the champion of feminist and child-friendly causes.


"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 11:45:35 PM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (none / 0)

would now become?

she has never stopped being that champion.


by colebiancardi on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 12:09:57 AM EST
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Re: Obama and Clinton Need to Support a New Femini (2.00 / 3)

I think one of the problems with the off-site anti-Obama crowd is that most of them only come on here once in awhile. They sit on no25cents or alegre's basement and read the same anti-Obama smears over and over until they believe them. Then they come here and post that same crap.

We have no patience for it, since it has probably been debunked time and time again on this site. They don't realize that. They think it's all true. We pile on to no effect. They keep arguing until the diary drops off the rec list and then leave the site. A day or two later another one arrives with the same tired old crap diary and it starts all over again.


"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." Samuel Johnson
by MS01 Indie on Sun Jul 13, 2008 at 10:49:50 PM EST

That sums it up well. (2.00 / 1)

It's like a familiar cycle.


by Dumbo on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 08:19:09 AM EST
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Not necessary. (2.00 / 2)

I think the reason Hillary Clinton doesn't disown PUMA is because a) they've already disowned her, and b) why draw attention to them?  She's made it clear that they don't speak for her.

Off-topic, my own theory is that they upended any chance she had to challenge the delegate tally at the credentials committee, assuming that was in the cards (who knows?).  She did not want a replay of the RBC protestors on a larger stage.  Imagine 1000 Harriet Christians with Hillary buttons - she'd never, ever live it down.


I have that readiness.
by Jess81 on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 12:37:33 AM EST

1000 protestors? (none / 0)

It is strange. 46% of Hillary's supporters won't vote for Obama, and the total is constantly rising. It is very interesting how you can pretend that these people will come around, that they are just grieving, that there are only 1000 or so of people who don't YET love and adore the Chosen One. Now, let's see. 46% of 18 million is...... more than 8 million voters. Really not important. When they find out just how wonderful and truthful and fabulous Obama is, they will all come home to roost.
Sorry. Won't. Happen.
The One is looking more sleazy by the day.
by Marjoriest on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 01:59:17 AM EST

Re: 1000 protestors? (2.00 / 1)

Where did you get those poll figures?

Democrats don't come around and support candidates because they are wonderful and truth and fabulous. They support the Democratic presidential nominee because his positions and policies are closer to theirs. Do you think people adored LBJ or Hubert Humphrey or Michael Dukakis?


"We drop like pebbles into the ponds of each other's souls, and the orbit of our ripples continues to expand, intersecting with countless others."
by rorschachtest on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 02:21:32 AM EST
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Re: 1000 protestors? (none / 0)

Ignore Majorpest, she has nothing of worth to add...she's only looking for attention.
Even if it's negative.
A common trait of small children, pets...and trolls.
by Kysen on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 01:22:58 PM EST
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Maybe they will just vote for him (2.00 / 1)

so we don't have anymore neocons starting pointless wars.  It doesn't have to be a personal revival meeting experience.  

It never was for me.  I wanted Edwards.  And only because Finegold wouldn't run.  Obama is good enough for me.  It's only by rising the bar so absurdly high that you can make him sound like a bad candidate.    


by Dumbo on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 08:23:33 AM EST
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It's generational, more then anything else.... (2.00 / 1)

"I perfectly understand how many women feel that supporting Obama is equivalent to going back to an abusive husband."

Yeah, I get that sense, but I just can't wrap my brain around it. (disclaimer, being a white male, though, at least one old enough to have lived through the 60s feminist struggles.)

Red, I think, and I have said this a lot here, my observation is, this war is more generational then it is Sexist traditionalists vs Feminist.

My anecdotal story, since being male and white, my dog in this hunt gets to be not as invested in the war, comes from my girlfriend.

She works for a health non-profit, 90% staffed by women, probably 50% women of color, and quite a few gay folks as well.  

A group CLEARLY you would believe, and you would be right, are leaning hard hard left.

What I saw that was, the dividing line was NOT race or sex, it was age.

First, I only know the demographics and level of support of the Seattle office, but my girlfriend said it was mirrored in the Atlanta, SF, and Austin office,

It broke down like this.

Over 50, mostly Hillary, except the women of color went for Obama (but late, as I clarify below.)

Between 50-40, mostly Obama.

Under 40, 100% Obama.

And, the discussions were fascinating?

Virtually 100% of the under 40 women were for Obama, the interesting dynamic there was, the women of color over 50 in that group were first for Hillary, basically because they thought Obama had no shot.

They started to switch after Iowa, and become absolutely HARD CORE after The Big Dogs comment in South Carolina about Jesse.  Now, I know that is debatable, some of the Clinton supporters stand on the "he was just stating facts" but, from my view of these black women's reaction, they heard a dog-whistle that busted their ear-drums.

In the end, after the primaries, there is only ONE true PUMA/McCain-inite, a 59 year old white women, who literally is in the "after what the did to Hillary" mind set.

What was interesting was, to see the discussion of Feminism, of the level of sexism, and how it cost or didn't Senator Clinton to lose, and to hear the two generational groups go at it?

Probably mirrored a lot of what you are talking about, where the younger woman were a lot more "well, it's not like we are throwing ALL women overboard by not voting for Hillary" and the old feminist coming back with "you don't understand the struggle, what we had to go through" answered with "yeah, but what does THAT have to do with this election?"

The over 50 crowd saw the Clinton nomination as almost a culmination of the entire struggle they had went through as women, the under 40 crowd were like, no, its a choice between two candidates and we prefer Obama. They didn't dislike Senator Clinton, they just weren't buying this titantic struggle for women's rights as focused on if Senator Clinton got the nomination.

In the end, as I said, most of the Clinton supporters are in some spread of spectrum, some begrudingly supporting Obama, some more enthusiastic.

And, one single "voting for McCain because of the sexism of the primary" at least, in the Seattle office.


On Nov 4th, Barack Obama officially ends the Southern Strategy....
by WashStateBlue on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 12:23:22 PM EST

Re: It's generational, more then anything else.... (none / 0)

I said I understood the abusive husband thing, but I don't, since I am only too good at insult vollies. I am every age so I don't belong to any generation. When I am a young adult librarian or a teen shrink, I am permanently arrested in adolescence. When I am taking care of my toddler grandson 3 days a week, people under 2 are my peer group, and I like them best of all. I spend my time talking to nannies and mothers. I might go a week without speaking to anyone over 50. But I do understand the generational thing. This primary season was awful for me. For the first time in their lives, my daughters (35, 33, 28, and 26) totally opposed me politically. We exchanged ferocious emails and had some phone screaming matches. After being a fanatic nonsexist childrearer, I was appalled to discover they weren't feminists. This is hope however. My grandson's mom, after 14 months, knows we are not in a postfeminist society. The middle two are becoming mothers this year. The second is discovering that you might make over $125,000, but you still pump your breastmilk in the toilet and can't store the milk in the company refrigerator because it is a "bio-hazard." They both fear a C section like their sister had, even though I had 4 kids without any drugs, including 2 at home. The C-section rate is around 40%; when I was pregnant in 1973, all pregnancy books advised you to avoid an OB whose rather was over 4%. Your comment deserves a diary. Thanks so much for such a thoughtful response. I am sorry if I am repeating myself.
"For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbors, and laugh at them in our turn?"
by redstocking on Mon Jul 14, 2008 at 03:39:57 PM EST
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