How far we have come (a thank you letter)

    This is my first diary entry on any forum.  I hope that you will forgive my poor writing; each diary I read adds some facet to my understanding of the world in which we live and I hope that this humble attempt will contribute to that whole for someone else.

    Senator Clinton was the epitome of grace and class today in her poignant speech.  I watched her campaign these past 16 months with mixed feelings.  As a woman who has struggled my entire career against the perception that because of my gender I am somehow less capable than the men, I longed to see her as the better choice, but based on the issues and on my own feelings about her words, I supported Sen. Obama for the nomination.  In her speech today she voiced many of the challenges that women face in the world, acknowledged both how far we have come and how far we have yet to go, and began the process of healing some of the rifts between a lot of us and our opponents' supporters.  I won't waste time and words listing those; we all know there have been some on both sides.

    That glass ceiling has been there all our lives.  Every woman who takes a risk and refuses to listen to all the reasons why she "can't" accomplish her goals knows that ceiling in intimate detail, and each of us has left at least one minute fissure.  Our mothers and grandmothers fought for rights that today we take for granted.  In our nation's youth, Abigail Adams wrote many insightful letters to her husband.  One example is this excerpt:


Patriotism in the female sex is the most disinterested of all virtues. Excluded from honors and from offices, we cannot attach ourselves to the State or Government from having held a place of eminence. Even in the freest countries our property is subject to the control and disposal of our partners, to whom the laws have given a sovereign authority. Deprived of a voice in legislation, obliged to submit to those laws which are imposed upon us, is it not sufficient to make us indifferent to the public welfare? Yet all history and every age exhibit instances of patriotic virtue in the female sex; which considering our situation equals the most heroic of yours.

Whilst you are proclaiming peace and good will to men, emancipating all nations, you insist upon retaining an absolute power over wives. But you must remember that arbitrary power is like most other things which are very hard, very liable to be broken -- and notwithstanding all your wise laws and maxims we have it in our power not only to free ourselves but to subdue our masters, and without violence throw both your natural and legal authority at our feet.

It is really mortifying, sir, when a woman possessed of a common share of understanding considers the difference of education between the male and female sex, even in those families where education is attended to... Nay why should your sex wish for such a disparity in those whom they one day intend for companions and associates.

    How far we have come and how proud Abigail Adams would be to see Hillary Clinton now, a standing U.S. Senator and a woman who was a strong contender for the highest office in the land!  To Mrs. Clinton and to her supporters all women owe a debt of gratitude.  This need not be tied to our positions on the issues; from respectful disagreement frequently grows deeper understanding.  So to all my fellow Obama supporters, I urge you to take a moment to acknowledge the tremendous boost that Senator Clinton and her supporters have given to the women of this country, particularly to the generation not yet come of age.  Adding more voices can only add more ideas for renewing our country's strength.

    I do not arrogate to myself much intelligence or education.  My eldest children, 16 and 14, easily surpass me in knowledge of science, history, culture, and the world.  Their generation has amazed me these past 16 months in their perceptions and insights, and in the level of caring at such young ages about what happens to our country's government.  I foresee a new level of enlightenment as that generation steps in, but until then those of us who cannot further change must swallow our pride and step out of the way of those who can.  There are many, many people on this and other blog sites; working in offices small and large, doing all kinds of jobs; reading and passionately lobbying for change, who continue to make this country strong.  We must be proud of them and support them, and I think each of us, however insignificant, has the honor of knowing a few.  We cannot afford to let our personal feelings stand in the way of strengthening our country, whatever path that may take.  I am finally able to forgive Senator Clinton for the words that upset me during her campaign and to forgive some of her ardent supporters for stepping over the line in their enthusiasm for their candidate.  To the rest of her supporters, who supported her with kindness and endeavored to convert others with courteous persistence, I feel a debt of gratitude for the example they set.  This has been, and will continue to be, an extraordinary and unprecedented campaign.  It may prove to be one of the most significant in our country's history.  Thank you, Senator Clinton, and thank you, all who have supported her without animosity or hatred towards the rest of us.



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Re: How far we have come (a thank you letter) (none / 0)

Not there yet. Not even close.

But yes, progress has been made.


by OrangeFur on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 03:32:21 PM EST

Re: How far we have come (a thank you letter) (none / 0)

Not there yet, but a big step forward.  We will get there, perhaps not in our lifetimes, but as long as each generation of women gets a little further than the last, we can be encouraged.


"Information is the currency of democracy." -Thomas Jefferson
by bigsky on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 03:37:23 PM EST
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Re: How far we have come (a thank you letter) (none / 0)

I guess. I'm discouraged because I thought we were farther along than we were.

Of course we'll get there eventually, I suppose. But it's been two centuries. How on earth aren't we farther along?


by OrangeFur on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 03:41:21 PM EST
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Re: How far we have come (a thank you letter) (none / 0)

Perhaps in part because we have so much to balance.  We work as hard as anyone else to keep food on the table, cook and clean, guard our children, massage egos, help with homework, write letters to soldiers, run errands, care for our friends, attend school plays, remember birthdays, and act as a private taxi service.  In the meantime the men come home from work and sit down to read for the next six hours.  We have quite a handicap to overcome in our efforts to make a difference!  When you think about all that, and consider all that our female predecessors had to do to run a household, it makes sense that it is a long struggle.


"Information is the currency of democracy." -Thomas Jefferson
by bigsky on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 03:52:33 PM EST
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Britain
Germany
Chile
Argentina
Pakistan
Israel
India
Canada
New Zealand
Ireland
Liberia
Finland
Philipines

This is a partial list of democracies that have elected female heads of government. Some of these have only been democracies for about 50 years.

And to think that in 2008, someone as eminently qualified as Hillary Clinton would run into such fierce sexism in the United States is disappointing.


by OrangeFur on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 04:05:54 PM EST
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It wasn't sexism that cost her the job: exit polls indicate that most people who took gender into account tended to vote for Hillary.

If I had to take a wild guess for the single contributing symbolic factor for her loss, I'd say it was anti-dynastic feeling and the name Clinton. She symbolized restoration, whereas Obama symbolized change.


by Aris Katsaris on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 05:14:28 PM EST
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I really don't think you can trust exit polls on that. Very few people will admit to sexism or racism, and many people are likely biased without knowing it. I wouldn't be surprised to one day find out that I'm in the second group.


by OrangeFur on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 06:10:01 PM EST
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I think there is a lot of merit in that guess.  She started the campaign with a lot of warm feeling in this country towards the Clintons, but the overwhelming feeling for a lot of people was the need for change, not just a return to the past.  Obama was from the start a new chapter - fresh and inspiring.  Gender almost certainly entered into it for some, but so did race, religion, all the things that were new factors in this campaign.  I think most people rose above those, or we would not have seen so many female Obama supporters or African Americans backing Clinton.


"Information is the currency of democracy." -Thomas Jefferson
by bigsky on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 08:04:44 PM EST
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It Is Party Time (none / 0)

People are going crazy here.;)
Bigsky, Take a look at track number 2 (total of 6:19 minutes long, ends with a "g" starts with and "L").;)
My thoughts on McCain: I have no desire to let that idiot fulfill his desire to "Bomb Iran"
by Otaku Saru on Sat Jun 07, 2008 at 08:58:27 PM EST

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Thanks ;)


"Information is the currency of democracy." -Thomas Jefferson
by bigsky on Sun Jun 08, 2008 at 02:20:28 AM EST
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