Hello all,
This is my first MyDD diary - I've been commenting here for a week now, doing my best to stay positive, while admittedly being partisan for my candidate of choice, Barack Obama.
This isn't a candidate diary, because all of us have had a year and then some to make up our minds about where our support would go. I also don't believe that such a diary is useful at the present moment, nor is a diary about why you should vote for Obama in November. After all, this is May, and Obama has yet to lock up the nomination, assuming that things continue on their present course. My focus is on some of the harm that has characterized the blogosphere in this election.
I know that damage has been done, and I am not urging that anyone forget about the insults that have been thrown around. I myself have been called naive, foolish, stupid, blind, hypocritical, and more. I have been told that my "neophyte" candidate's success means that our country is "damned to Hell," and that all Obama supporters are "set on voter intimidation, sexism, and general violence against democratic ideals."
That last quote is from yesterday.
A recent Vanity Fair article spoke of the split, (and quoted Alegre):
At Daily Kos, Clinton's supporters felt not only outnumbered but patronized as objects of sexist condescension, pummeled like tackling dummies.... My dear, the to-do. Dozens of disgruntled Kossacks headed for the exits, an exodus picked up by cable news channels and the New York Times politics blog, which tended to ignore squabbles in the clubhouse, and one given serious play as a sign of the schism between Obama and Hillary advocates.
http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/featu res/2008/06/wolcott200806?currentPage=1
As I saw it, the problem was characterized mainly by a lack of understanding and communication between partisans on both sides. You might think these things are simple, but many a marriage has been split by the exact same two.
Clinton supporters saw an untested, inexperienced candidate, unready for a general election and favored by the media, and Obama supporters saw a calculating, cold candidate who was willing to bend and stretch the truth to get votes.
As the contest continued, nether side thought its case only became clearer. As a result, the split widened, and widened, and widened and widened, until we had an effective divorce in some ways, characterized by near consistent acrimony. My kind comment to Alegre was completely disregarded by another diarist as a lie (the diarist apologized later), because that diarist had seen so much bad that they could not trust anything positive from an Obama supporter. My line by line response to a MI/FL diary was even troll rated, as well as this comment:
I haven't seen anything in the way that Obama handled Wright to make me doubt his ability as a President.I would hardly call him off-balanced and tarnished either. See the NYT/CBS poll.
Whoever you support, please realize that neither you, your candidate, nor your fellow supporters are perfect. I honestly believe that there are people here who do not realize this truth, but I also believe that there are many reasonable, decent people here, and that proactive discussions are possible.
However, so many insults have been traded that for many, the price of leveling a bad comment is outweighed by how justified it seems: Obama supporters are mindless zombies who won't listen anyways, and Clinton supporters don't support the party, so many don't see a need to respect the other side, since it has chosen to disregard what is obviously true, namely that one side's right and the other wrong.
There is always a need for respect. There is always a need for patience. There is always a need for dialog - we lose the power of this forum if we segregate ourselves, as has been suggested. I also do not care if you have been insulted. I do not care if you have been attacked. The responsibility is yours to act responsibly - DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS, whoever they are and whoever they support. Troll-rate and go on: spend your time with those who want to have a real discussion. Spend you time engaging those who want to engage you in discussion instead of one-liners.
Please understand that those who have faith in a different candidate are not stupid, or undemocratic, or evil, or groundless (at least most of the time.) When you fail to consider their opinion, you also make yourself look foolish and mindless.
Put yourself in an Obamabot's shoes, Clinton supporters. Think about how it would have felt to have your 100% pro-choice candidate attacked as a coward for a strategy plotted with Planned Parenthood, to have Bill Clinton compare a big win on the basis of race, to see Clinton plant questions in her audience, and to see only certain states viewed as important by the Clinton campaign. I don't care if you think those things were fine, or if you think they didn't happen, because the important part of this exercise is realizing that for many Obamabots, they weren't fine, they did happen, and we felt that you didn't care. Obama supporters are not evil, and they aren't foolish. They honestly believe in him, and you should honor that.
And put yourself in a Clintonista's shoes, Obama supporters. Imagine the media's coronation of Obama after Iowa, and his seeming coronation now. Think about "you're likeable enough," and how Obama got so much positive press in the beginning of the campaign. Remember D-Punjab and how the Obama campaign stopped progress on possible FL and MI revotes. Even if those things were justified, the important part of this exercise is to remember that for Clinton supporters, they were not, and you didn't seem to care. Clinton supporters are not evil, and they aren't foolish. They honestly believe in her, and you should honor that.
I still see people arguing past each other. It is hypocritical to deny the results of the caucus states while counting MI/FL, and it is hypocritical to count the caucus states while denying any voice to FL/MI. It is wrong to say that Obama "leaves out" 15 million people from healthcare when his doesn't deny anyone coverage, and it is wrong to say that Clinton "obviously" hates the Democratic party.
So next time you write and post, take a moment, and imagine being on the other side. Take the time to be kinder to those you disagree with than you think they deserve, and all will benefit. When your fellow supporters say something that's not constructive, jump on them and tell them they are not helping their candidate. Try making all of your comments more than one sentence, if you want a strategy.
Finally, I fully expect comments ridiculing me for preaching or a holier than thou attitude. I also expect comments finding one specific piece in this post that is problematic while completely ignoring the rest of the diary. I think that there is some merit in such comments, but they won't be constructive, and I ask you to withhold them.
The power to change the tone is ours - will you take the challenge?
|
|
|
Permalink :: 49 Comments :: Post a Comment
|
In order to post a comment, you must be logged in. If you have a member account, please log in to comment.
If not, you can make an account right here. It's quick and free.