Hateful harm helps who?

Hello all,

This is my first MyDD diary - I've been commenting here for a week now, doing my best to stay positive, while admittedly being  partisan for my candidate of choice, Barack Obama.

This isn't a candidate diary, because all of us have had a year and then some to make up our minds about where our support would go. I also don't believe that such a diary is useful at the present moment, nor is a diary about why you should vote for Obama in November. After all, this is May, and Obama has yet to lock up the nomination, assuming that things continue on their present course. My focus is on some of the harm that has characterized the blogosphere in this election.

I know that damage has been done, and I am not urging that anyone forget about the insults that have been thrown around. I myself have been called naive, foolish, stupid, blind, hypocritical, and more. I have been told that my "neophyte" candidate's success means that our country is "damned to Hell," and that all Obama supporters are "set on voter intimidation, sexism, and general violence against democratic ideals."

That last quote is from yesterday.

A recent Vanity Fair article spoke of the split, (and quoted Alegre):

At Daily Kos, Clinton's supporters felt not only outnumbered but patronized as objects of sexist condescension, pummeled like tackling dummies.... My dear, the to-do. Dozens of disgruntled Kossacks headed for the exits, an exodus picked up by cable news channels and the New York Times politics blog, which tended to ignore squabbles in the clubhouse, and one given serious play as a sign of the schism between Obama and Hillary advocates.
http://www.vanityfair.com/politics/featu res/2008/06/wolcott200806?currentPage=1

As I saw it, the problem was characterized mainly by a lack of understanding and communication between partisans on both sides. You might think these things are simple, but many a marriage has been split by the exact same two.

Clinton supporters saw an untested, inexperienced candidate, unready for a general election and favored by the media, and Obama supporters saw a calculating, cold candidate who was willing to bend and stretch the truth to get votes.

As the contest continued, nether side thought its case only became clearer. As a result, the split widened, and widened, and widened and widened, until we had an effective divorce in some ways, characterized by near consistent acrimony. My kind comment to Alegre was completely disregarded by another diarist as a lie (the diarist apologized later), because that diarist had seen so much bad that they could not trust anything positive from an Obama supporter. My line by line response to a MI/FL diary was even troll rated, as well as this comment:

I haven't seen anything in the way that Obama handled Wright to make me doubt his ability as a President.

I would hardly call him off-balanced and tarnished either. See the NYT/CBS poll.


I raise these points to make the case to Clinton supporters that something is wrong for people on both sides of this split. For Obama supporters, I won't quote, but I will assure you that I have seen and troll rated more than one completely unhelpful, constructive comments from people who have rejected several principles that Obama built his candidacy on.

Whoever you support, please realize that neither you, your candidate, nor your fellow supporters are perfect. I honestly believe that there are people here who do not realize this truth, but I also believe that there are many reasonable, decent people here, and that proactive discussions are possible.

However, so many insults have been traded that for many, the price of leveling a bad comment is outweighed by how justified it seems: Obama supporters are mindless zombies who won't listen anyways, and Clinton supporters don't support the party, so many don't see a need to respect the other side, since it has chosen to disregard what is obviously true, namely that one side's right and the other wrong.

There is always a need for respect. There is always a need for patience. There is always a need for dialog - we lose the power of this forum if we segregate ourselves, as has been suggested. I also do not care if you have been insulted. I do not care if you have been attacked. The responsibility is yours to act responsibly - DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS, whoever they are and whoever they support. Troll-rate and go on: spend your time with those who want to have a real discussion. Spend you time engaging those who want to engage you in discussion instead of one-liners.

Please understand that those who have faith in a different candidate are not stupid, or undemocratic, or evil, or groundless (at least most of the time.) When you fail to consider their opinion, you also make yourself look foolish and mindless.

Put yourself in an Obamabot's shoes, Clinton supporters. Think about how it would have felt to have your 100% pro-choice candidate attacked as a coward for a strategy plotted with Planned Parenthood, to have Bill Clinton compare a big win on the basis of race, to see Clinton plant questions in her audience, and to see only certain states viewed as important by the Clinton campaign. I don't care if you think those things were fine, or if you think they didn't happen, because the important part of this exercise is realizing that for many Obamabots, they weren't fine, they did happen, and we felt that you didn't care. Obama supporters are not evil, and they aren't foolish. They honestly believe in him, and you should honor that.

And put yourself in a Clintonista's shoes, Obama supporters. Imagine the media's coronation of Obama after Iowa, and his seeming coronation now. Think about "you're likeable enough," and how Obama got so much positive press in the beginning of the campaign. Remember D-Punjab and how the Obama campaign stopped progress on possible FL and MI revotes. Even if those things were justified, the important part of this exercise is to remember that for Clinton supporters, they were not, and you didn't seem to care. Clinton supporters are not evil, and they aren't foolish. They honestly believe in her, and you should honor that.

I still see people arguing past each other. It is hypocritical to deny the results of the caucus states while counting MI/FL, and it is hypocritical to count the caucus states while denying any voice to FL/MI. It is wrong to say that Obama "leaves out" 15 million people from healthcare when his doesn't deny anyone coverage, and it is wrong to say that Clinton "obviously" hates the Democratic party.

So next time you write and post, take a moment, and imagine being on the other side. Take the time to be kinder to those you disagree with than you think they deserve, and all will benefit. When your fellow supporters say something that's not constructive, jump on them and tell them they are not helping their candidate. Try making all of your comments more than one sentence, if you want a strategy.

Finally, I fully expect comments ridiculing me for preaching or a holier than thou attitude. I also expect comments finding one specific piece in this post that is problematic while completely ignoring the rest of the diary. I think that there is some merit in such comments, but they won't be constructive, and I ask you to withhold them.

The power to change the tone is ours - will you take the challenge?



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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 6)

Please take the time to read the entire diary before posting, and I hope we can have a good discussion. I will respond to every comment I can.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 10:46:14 AM EST

why thank you (none / 0)

for dismissing and denying any concerns or feelings of anyone who does not agree with you. after all how could we possibly be as 'smart' as you or count as much as you since we are all 'low info' and stupid as BHO keeps telling us...


by zerosumgame on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:21:45 AM EST
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Begging your Pardon (2.00 / 1)

I am not attempting to dismiss or deny your concerns. I only hope that you will make your points in a way that build constructive conversation. I didn't call you stupid or low info. Nor, I believe, did Obama.

I'm not saying you are wrong - I am saying we could all speak and listen better.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:30:02 AM EST
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My ire is towards Republicans (2.00 / 4)

I admire and appreciate the hard work and dedication of Clinton supporters, and have since I got here weeks ago.

What I won't tolerate is people digging into Republican playbooks to smear the presumptive Democratic nominee.

You have some very solid points and I will try to make sure and avoid being too harsh on Clinton, but year after year we have suffered from the sort of Republican fearmongering, mistruths, and gamesmanship that's rec listed at this very site day after day.

I will forcefully contest anyone who appears to be recycling Republican attack points with no real interest in offering solutions to any percieved concerns.

So, to Obama opponents, I humbly suggest that issues such as Wright, McClurkin, Rezko, Ayers, "bitter," and flag pins be off-limits unless you want to offer some ideas on how to diffuse such attacks from McCain surrogates in the general election.  Don't bring up these issues as evidence against him, because there's no reason to think that twenty years of problematic Clinton issues won't come to light if she happened to have won the nomination.  We need to beat the attack machine together.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:00:19 AM EST

Re: My ire is towards Republicans (2.00 / 3)

Agreed - we all know the dirt on both sides, and constantly throwing it around won't help anything. There's no doubt the nominee will be hit by oppo - both candidates have RNC research documents over 1000 pages.

The question is if we will let these candidates be defined by the negative parts. If we focus on what's bad, then we allow that to happen.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:04:17 AM EST
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Re: My ire is towards Republicans (2.00 / 1)

I beg to differ with you on one point you've made.

In lumping McClurkin in with Wright and others, you make it seem as if it is a similar kind of issue to Wright.

It is not.

McClurkin, Meeks and others are anti-gay men who actively campaign for BO (with his approval) and spread their hateful anti-gay message at the same time.

Being a gay man, I am offended by BO's refusal to keep these men out of his campaign (and, yes, I have called his campaign several times to discuss the issue and they claim the candidate refuses to cut these people loose). Additionally this is not BO's only failure with regard to the GLBT community.

These bigots are working in the "urgency of now" they are not shadows from the past.

So fight against the other party's talking points all you want.

But let's not ignore very real issues of bigotry and BO's failure to address them.


by cuppajoe on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:03:30 PM EST
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Re: My ire is towards Republicans (2.00 / 1)

I believe that Obama no longer works with McClurkin, and that this controversy was from one tour in SC, such that they have had no recurring relationship. I could be wrong - please let me know.

Obama also denounced McClurkin's position, and put a gay minister on the tour as well. He did everything he could besides kicking McClurkin off the tour. My home church accepts gays, and I understand (in part) your offense, although I am not gay.

He also mentioned a lack of tolerance for gays when he spoke at Ebeneezer in Atlanta.

I honestly don't believe that they hired McClurkin knowing about any sort of controversy. You are, of course, free to judge how they handled that controversy, and I respect that.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:12:40 PM EST
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He addressed them. (none / 0)

http://www.advocate.com/news_detail_ekti d50021.asp

The Advocate: How did this happen? Was Mr. McClurkin vetted?

Senator Obama: Obviously, not vetted to the extent that people were aware of his attitudes with respect to gay and lesbians, LGBT issues -- at least not vetted as well as I would have liked to see.

Having said that, we viewed this simply as an opportunity to have a gospel concert as part of our overall outreach, and since he was singing at a concert along with a number of other artists, as opposed to being a spokesperson for us, probably it didn't undergo the same kind of vet that someone who was serving as a surrogate for me might have.

Obama is the best candidate for LGBT Americans. Gay rights are civil rights, and no other candidate understands them better than Obama.

I have my own issues with the Clintons and LGBT issues, but I'm not going to go into them right now.  Suffice to say, I don't think much of the gay community has researched the issue as much as they probably should.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 02:29:19 PM EST
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Re: He addressed them. (none / 0)

Thanks for finding that - I thought that was the case.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 02:53:58 PM EST
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It's astonishing (none / 0)

I don't understand why more LGBT folks aren't more curious about this.  It's like they hear one thing, base their opinion, and never do research to confirm or disprove.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 03:01:50 PM EST
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Re: It's astonishing (2.00 / 1)

I only have time to give you a couple links, but speaking as a radical lesbian feminist who supports Clinton, she is miles (and miles and miles) beyond ObamaClurkin in the sincerity factor for her support with queer communities.

Cheesy music and some grainy video notwithstanding:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Xt9KcR28 Q4

"Here is a list of Clinton's appearances and discussion of LGBT issues in front of non-LGBT friendly audiences, as Obama so often is praised for doing."

http://suburblezmom.blogspot.com/2008/04 /clinton-and-lgbt-friendly-and-non.html


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 03:52:06 PM EST
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Re: It's astonishing (none / 0)

I won't denegrate the work she's done.  Obama's position is just stronger.  He'll repeal DOMA entirely, for example, while Clinton will only repeal part.

The video was cute, though I did get a chuckle from the picture of her with the woman all the right wingnuts think she's having an affair with.  A little potshot at our overly conservative lunatic friends, there?

As for the second link... I'm not sure we think of non-friendly forums the same way.

Human Rights Campaign's Board Meeting and Equality Convention: Friendly on all civil rights issues.

LGBT Steering Committee: Obviously friendly

LOGO Presidential forum: Uh, LOGO is certainly friendly.

LGBT Watch parties: Friendly!

The Advocate: Who are we kidding here?

HIV/AIDS plan: not just a gay issue these days.

Saddleback: this one I'll give you.  I hadn't heard of that one.  Good job, Hillary.

You get the point.  She's got one truly gutsy move, while Obama is out on the stump talking about gay rights every day, to every audience.  I'm not saying that she's hidden her support of gay rights, but quite honestly, I don't think she's taken many risks on behalf of gays.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 04:21:03 PM EST
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Re: It's astonishing (none / 0)

HE'S TALKING ABOUT GAY RIGHTS EVERY DAY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Please provide the itinerary and campaign stop transcripts. Nah, I don't believe that statement at all.

Have to agree with you on what someone else thought was non-friendly forums. The point, of course, is that she's actually attending/doing/speaking out and more massively and for a longer period of time than BO. I think she'sbeen a better, more consistent friend to queer communities. But we could go back and forth and in the end neither of us is swayed. Oy and vey.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 04:55:03 PM EST
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I don't have his itinerary (none / 0)

I've heard his stump in person twice, he mentioned gays both times.

This was taken from his stump speeches.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=AmUUYo9o9e g

He gets into it a bit on MLK day, as I mentioned.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Kf0x_TpDri s

Trust me, he's on this all the time.

The thing is, Obama doesn't pander to queer folk.  He usually doesn't go specifically to segregated queer-specific rallies because he believes in integrated audiences where everyone is welcome and invited.  Far more than Clinton, who does all these events but almost never actually says the word "gay" or (especially) "lesbian," Obama isn't afraid of shining a light on the plight of gays, lending them a hand, and saying that it'll be okay, they can come out if they want.  He treats them not as somehow special because they're gay, but as humans and Americans just like everyone else.

DADT and DOMA were Bill Clinton's shameful contributions to the debate on gay rights, and they have to go.  Hillary won't repeal DOMA, and I wouldn't hold my breath on DADT, either.

It comes down to... do you want to have a president that treats you like a special flower but doesn't actually go out on a limb for you, or do you want a president who won't treat you differently either way?


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 05:38:04 PM EST
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Re: I don't have his itinerary (none / 0)

I don't believe your premise, so there is no answering your question. Look, there's no use in debating this because I'm not voting for Obama. I don't like him, I don't trust him, and I don't believe for a moment he has my, let alone my planet's, best interests at heart. I see him as smoke and mirrors and I'll be doing everything I can, short of voting for McCreepy, to ensure he doesn't take the WH. He's that wrong in view. So, nice chatting but no sale.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 06:02:21 PM EST
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Thankfully (none / 0)

Not every gay Clinton supporter is as set in their ways.  Have a good one.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 09:37:27 PM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 4)

Thank you for this thoughtful post. It is time for some unity and understanding in the Democratic party. The alternative is McSame--anti-choice, 100 years in Iraq, Keating 5, more SCOTUS justices like Alito. The alternative is just too horrible to think about. We need to win this one.


by blue jersey mom on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:02:34 AM EST

Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 2)

I have a lot more respect toward the John McCain of 2000 then the one of the present day. He made a choice to reject some of his principles to the get the nomination - I admit that I have a hope he'll stand at the Republican convention and urge everyone to vote for the Democrat.

Though I'd have to say that this is unlikely.

We don't need to vilify McCain though - the Keating Five should be reminded, but not focused on. His reversals over 8 eight years should be the focus, especially on the tax cuts we didn't need.

Honor him for his "half-century" of service, and talk about how healthcare in this country has failed.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:08:02 AM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 4)

Reconciliation works both ways. I do believe the vast majority of Clinton supporters in real life want to get over their disappointment and unify. I also believe the vast majority of Obama supporters will walk that extra mile in their shoes for reconciliation.

There are however a number on both sides who still want to last out, or crow over defeat.  The former is more apparent here, given the history of MYDD over the last few months. Fair enough.

But Obama supporters or Hillary supporters, in fact democrats of any candidate persuasion should NOT TOLERATE sexist or racist attacks, smears of innuendo of association, or FACTLESS arguments (i.e. LIES)

It is one of the rules of this site that diaries and comments should not be CONTENT FREE. Though exchanges of witty  invective are par for course, abusive or mendacious comments should still be challenged.


Pointing to the inadequacies of John McCain
by duende on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:05:23 AM EST

Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 3)

I have found that instead of presenting a conclusion (IE Clinton is Racist, Obama is race-baiting), it's better to post what happened without coming to  a specific conclusion, and constructing your post such that many will come to the charge on their own instead of hearing it from you, and getting defensive.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:10:21 AM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 2)

Exactly. A lot of these charges are 'assumed'. Many times I've had a reasonable discussion with Clinton supporters, often apropos of something technical, and they suddenly come up with 'You probably think I'm racist', which is the last thing on my mind.

The same thing happens over the generational division. Mid way through a completely unrelated argument I have posters saying, oh, but I'm old and irrelevant I suppose. OR - have you got a job, are you a student? I never tell them I'm 47 with two kids, one about to enter college.

So you're right. There are a lot of sensitivities, guilts, and projections flying around, and we must all be conscientious in defusing these, and reassuring people it's not an ad hominem or ad feminem attack. I think Identity politics is the source of a lot of these problems.

On the other hand, there are some posters just spoiling for a fight. Indifference is effective. But so is an effectively placed verbal witty punch.

Sorry. Nobody's perfect. And self defense is legal


Pointing to the inadequacies of John McCain
by duende on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:16:51 AM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 1)

It is legal, but I hope your punches to troll are of the variety that leave one feeling embarrassed and silent, instead of angry and mouthing off. :D


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:21:47 AM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 1)

They tend to be. And usually involve humor, or a suddenly outburst of affection.

Actually, I can name several posters who became quite friendly after I took the time to return their insults, with a velvet glove of course.

Go figure. Human nature is bizarre


Pointing to the inadequacies of John McCain
by duende on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:27:49 AM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 1)

Quite bizarre - one only need to flip to a random cable channel at 4 AM to see that.

I can name several people in my life that I enjoy arguing with more than regular conversation. The difference, of course, is that they and I can see each other.

That's why I'm so conscious of electronic punches - we don't see who we're punching at, or if a joke we use might touch a raw nerve from their lives.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:32:37 AM EST
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I made my decision last night (1.66 / 6)

I am one of the DailyKos people, there since the beginning, that was run off for supporting Clinton.  I am also of an age that I can remember how well President Clinton ran our country, after years of republican rule.  I hated Reagan and Bush...but McCain isn't Reagan or Bush.  
I am gay, and I was deeply offended by the South Carolina Homophobic Road Show, and by the way that Sen. Clinton was called 'bitch' with every other breath at DailyKos.
Another good reason that I won't be voting for Obama, and for the first time in over 25 years I am thinking of voting for a republican...is that we are in the top tax bracket, and I've decided if the Obamabots can be self-centered, so can I.  I like the 50K we saved on the tax cut this past year...so I will look out for myself this year.  I'm tired of looking out for people who don't look out for me.  
And with all the republican talking points spouted off by the obamabots...I find that I dislike them more than I dislike the republicans that attacked her 10 years ago.
I am sick of the disrespect shown to Sen.Clinton by many on Dailykos, and now, too often, here. You aren't winning hearts and minds.
by SoCalVet on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:06:18 AM EST

You need to give Obama a chance (2.00 / 1)

The McClurkin thing was a misstep that he admits to in his interview with The Advocate.

Obama is a strong friend to the gay community, and if you look at the rest of his record and policy beyond one campaign appearance, you'll see that.

If you're voting on economics, then that I understand... I would just warn you that the economy has suffered greatly under Bush rule; gains to the richest Americans have the risk of becoming losses as the nation loses more jobs and pillages the environment unchecked, which is where McCain would take us.


In this avalanche, the pebbles get to vote.
by Dracomicron on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:12:59 AM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (2.00 / 2)

That's true - McCain isn't Reagan or Bush, and I'm happy about it,  because an act of God is never out of the question, and I do feel his administration would reverse several harms from Bush.

I have attended a church that accepts gays as full members, and I hope you recall that Obama added a Gay preacher to the SC roadshow, and repudiated McClurkin. Those who called Senator Clinton names don't represent the Obama campaign, as I think you realize.

The point of this diary is to tell you that BOTH sides are guilty - yours and mine. You are free to vote as you wish, but I feel you will be rejecting the policies that Senator Clinton stood for, and it seems, only because you feel insulted.

Is your wounded ego worth a lack of healthcare and years and years in Iraq?


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:14:50 AM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (2.00 / 1)

SoCalVet

I understand your position, and I'm uprating the comment despite the McCain voting suggestion, because you've reasoned your position and don't deserve to be trolled.

I'm a writer, and from time to time a high income earner (and then impoverished depending on commissions) and I would urge you to rethink your vote for McCain on 'economic grounds'.

Yes, you might save some money because McCain won't reverse the tax cuts. But what is the cost? I don't know where you live, but in London I pay for health service, schools and colleges out of my taxation. Sometimes those bills have been huge. But I've been happy to do so because I'm INVESTING IN MY OWN HAPPINESS, if society is more harmonious, if there are safety nets for the poor, sick and disadvantaged, if their is public transport instead of gridlock, if their is access to education instead of a growing prison population (who will have to be released one day, having increased their crime skills)

I could go on, but the point is that I'm not a saint. I see a level of social care  as in my own interest. I also see it as being VITAL for my countries long term health, wealth and security, that it's not only the rich who have access to good schools and good jobs. If the US carries on this way, it will become more and more polarised. And as we've seen with Bush and Cheney, promoting the children of the rich is not a route to success but a recipe for disaster. Croneyism, nepotism and inheritance just reduce the gene pool of intelligence, and render society fractious, crime ridden, unpleasant and dangerous. We can't all live in ghettos anymore, whether those by inner city neighborhoods or gate suburban communities.

We're all richer, all better off, when we work together.

Please tell me you'll reconsider.


Pointing to the inadequacies of John McCain
by duende on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:26:25 AM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Yes, please do reconsider. I won't be voting for O either, but instead of voting for McCain, please work for down-ticket Dems and write in Clinton's name. She gets votes and there is a stronger chance for a solid Dem Congress to keep a McCain presidency in check.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:27:47 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

One thing that would help is a diary about what about Obama challenges you to the degree that you won't vote for him. It would help many of us understand. Such a diary will probably be trolled, but I would really appreciate it, since it would give me an idea of where the most harm was done by Obama.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:41:46 PM EST
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in a nutshell.... (none / 0)

It was his campaign's repeated attempts to make the Clintons out to be racists, and it was the terrible behavior of his supporters who literally repeated every right-wing talking point that I remember well from the 90's.   I would never give the Obama supporters, who caused me to leave KOS after years, the satisfaction of my vote.  never.


I am sick of the disrespect shown to Sen.Clinton by many on Dailykos, and now, too often, here. You aren't winning hearts and minds.
by SoCalVet on Sat May 10, 2008 at 04:06:24 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (2.00 / 2)

I'm somewhat upset and disappointed that you would group all Obama supporters in with eachother with such broad brushes.

I was once told by a Clinton supporter my infant daughter deserved to be raped since I supported Obama. This is akin to me blaming you, since another Clinton supporter said that, obviously you must feel the same sentiment.

I'm a single dad. I'm raising a baby girl all by myself while trying to finish nursing school and working full time. Tomorrow, my baby's first mother's day will come and go, and her mom won't be here because, golly gee, she's just not ready to be a mom yet. I'm barely making ends meet and I operate on about as much sleep as when I was on deployment in the Navy, or less. So when you come here and decry Obama supporters as selfish, elite, rich, et cetera- man, I gotta tell you, it fucking hurts. Really. As much as I've done and been through, you wouldn't think a stupid thing on the internet would affect me, but it does.

And it seems to be a common theme amongst some Clinton supporters. But I'm smart enough to know Clinton supporters come in as many shapes and sizes and colors and creeds and walks of life as Obama supporters, and trying to brush them all the same only reflects poorly on me.

But if you think the Republicans, really, are the ones with your best interests in mind, go right ahead.


Hooray for John McCain!
by ragekage on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:25:14 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Please provide a link to the rape comment.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:29:21 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Sigh. You mean I actually have to go back into Taylor Marsh and trudge through comments from a few weeks ago? Very well.


Hooray for John McCain!
by ragekage on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:35:33 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Thank you for taking the time, though. Thanks also for the previous comment. I appreciate the time you give to this, especially with all that you have to do.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:37:36 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

I feel strongly about getting our country back on track, probably mostly for the little girl I'm about to have to go pick up and figure out what she's fussing about here in a second- she's become the defining light of my life, and I want her to grow up not having to deal with all this bullshit. That's why I decry and cannot stand pettiness on any side of the aisle.


Hooray for John McCain!
by ragekage on Sat May 10, 2008 at 12:41:17 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Yes, you worked so hard to stay above petty here:

http://www.mydd.com/comments/2008/5/9/23 3114/8698/41

If I take you at your word, you're a single father. I know that's hard. I was a single mother. But I think you have been one of the most biting O supporters on this board. If this forum is a way for you to get some of your frustration out, so be it. Just don't try to hide behind being a champion of anything resembling fair and balanced.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 01:48:00 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Heh. You think it's petty to note that Clinton had more support from African-Americans before Bill put his foot in his mouth? Very well.

Sorry if you think I'm "biting". This is the internet; kid gloves don't exist here, and I think we're all adults and can handle a little sarcasm and "biting", as you put it.

Not fair and balanced, eh? When the "bitter" ordeal broke for Obama, and Clinton supporters gleefully related their tales of regaling voters with what an out of touch elitist Obama was, totally ignoring the content and meaning of his statement. I was furious, because I had spent the weekend campaigning for Obama in North Carolina, and several times had corrected things people were saying incorrectly about Senator Clinton.

So I pledged to never, ever correct anything anyone said false about Senator Clinton. But you know what? I couldn't. I wouldn't compromise my integrity and sink to that level. So tell me more about being fair and balanced when you only know me from an anonymous post on the Internet.


Hooray for John McCain!
by ragekage on Sat May 10, 2008 at 06:47:01 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (1.00 / 1)

Where's that rape assertion proof, eh kiddo? Sink to that level, my ass. Poser.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 08:37:55 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Alright, he didn't provide. I still think my point stands that horrible things have been said on both sides.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 09:06:31 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (1.00 / 1)

True enough.


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 09:36:55 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

You make such a serious claim, it's only right that you back it up. No?


by Soitgoes on Sat May 10, 2008 at 01:40:25 PM EST
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Re: I made my decision last night (none / 0)

Vote McCain and sell out all the gays, including myself, and yourself, so you can save some tax money.  Voting for McCain would also be a slap to Hillary and her supporters who have worked so hard to end the Republican rule.  (You will actually pay more tax with McCain because he wants to continue this war America can't afford.  You will pay for it one way or another.  Stop the blood letting and the money wasting.)

My sister is considering voting for McCain because she too makes a good income, and got really mad at me for telling her not to vote for McCain.  I explained to her that McCain and his party are anti-gay, which she didn't know of. (McCain supported the anti-gay marriage measure in Arizona.) I can excuse her decision for supporting McCain because she was ignorant, but I can't excuse your vote for McCain because you know better.  

Obama has pledged to repeal DOMA altogether. (Hillary pledged to repeal only parts of it).  Obama does look out for you.  

You will see Obama associating with people you might think are offensive, but he has said in his campaign speeches that he will have open dialogues with his enemies.  That is the only way to change their minds, is through open dialogue.

Hillary said she'd support the nominee.  If you really support Hillary, listen to her message.  Hillary said she doesn't want McCain in the White House, and I am sure you would agree with Hillary.

I guarantee you that you'd be even more offended if you vote for McCain than you ever were with the "South Carolina Homophobic Road Show."  Remember, a vote for McCain is a vote for Bush.  


by hienmango on Sat May 10, 2008 at 01:41:03 PM EST
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I have a reasonable suggestion. (none / 0)

There's a diary on the rec list that suggests this also.

If Clinton is not the nominee, why not sit back and watch the GE campaigns unfold?  Nobody forces you to campaign for either side so you can act like a low-info voter instead of an activist...watch from the sidelines.

Watch the debates and speeches from both McCain and Obama.  Wait until November to decide what to do after they have presented their cases.

If McCain presents the better case, vote for him.  If Obama presents the better case, vote for him.  Sound reasonable to you?


No Way, No How, No McCain!
by GFORD on Sat May 10, 2008 at 01:57:33 PM EST
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But you're OK.. (none / 0)

...with McCain's associaion with Hagee and Falwell??  Let me introduce you to some of the statements they have on gays/lesbians:

JohnHagee:

"All hurricanes are acts of God, because God controls the heavens. I believe that New Orleans had a level of sin that was offensive to God, and they were recipients of the judgment of God for that.
The newspaper carried the story in our local area, that was not carried nationally, that there was to be a homosexual parade there on the Monday that the Katrina came. And the promise of that parade was that it would was going to reach a level of sexuality never demonstrated before in any of the other gay pride parades.
So I believe that the judgment of God is a very real thing. I know there are people who demur from that, but I believe that the Bible teaches that when you violate the law of God, that God brings punishment sometimes before the Day of Judgment, and I believe that the Hurricane Katrina was, in fact, the judgment of God against the city of New Orleans."

Jerry Falwell:

"god hates homosexuality"

"role modelling the gay lifestyle is damaging to the moral lives of children."

About 9/11

"I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People for the American Way - all of them who have tried to secularize America - I point the finger in their face and say, 'You helped this happen.'"

And you, being gay, still choose McCain and his associates??


A useless "Community Organizer" from Pennsylvania as noted by Republicans, Rudy Giuliani and Sarah Palin
by hootie4170 on Sat May 10, 2008 at 02:03:12 PM EST
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Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 3)

PS. Apart from my pontification, great first diary falsehood. Is the title supposed to be a tongue twister? Or are you just addicted to alliteration?


Pointing to the inadequacies of John McCain
by duende on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:07:06 AM EST

Re: Hateful harm helps who? (2.00 / 2)

I figure word games in my titles will be a sort of trademark. :D

I am, however, alarmingly addicted at all hours to alert alliteration.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:17:00 AM EST
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One step further (2.00 / 4)

This is one of the better "reconciliation" diaries out there.  I hope all involved take the diarist up on his/her suggestion to put themselves in the shoes of a supporter of the other side.

If you've tried those kicks on for size, I would even suggest one step further, which is to consider the possibility that neither candidate in this election unambiguously stands on any kind of moral high ground.  Both of these people are attempting to become the MOST POWERFUL HUMAN BEING ON THE PLANET.  Almost by definition, they are both probably more calculating and ambitious than anybody you've ever met in real life.  Both sides ran tough, strategic campaigns with one ultimate and overriding goal - winning.  They adopted slightly different strategies because they were dealt different cards, but ultimately they shared a common purpose.  These campaigns and these candidates really have a lot more in common than most people would like to admit.  The sooner we all acknowledge that, the better.


John McCain: Extending SCHIP would be an "unfunded liability."
by Fuzzy Dunlop on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:09:32 AM EST

Re: One step further (2.00 / 1)

A good point.

Those who think that Obama isn't a careerist might want to examine how he went, in 4 year increments, from

A State Senator Election to Being locked out of the 2000 Dem Convention as a failed primary candidate to giving the 2004 keynote to possibly giving the acceptance speech.

I wanted Jon Stewart to ask him if he thought he's be a minor Democratic god in 4 years or 8.


by Falsehood on Sat May 10, 2008 at 11:19:16 AM EST
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